Personal Development

Wow! When you think about it…

Being a Therapist and a Human is a Trip! It’s rewarding and, at times, can feel very costly.

It’s challenging to hold space for your client’s pain and then come home to your life at the end of the day. Where does the work day end and your own time begin?

The lines get blurred, whether it’s intentional or not, because, as a therapist, you take your work with you (to lesser and more significant degrees) everywhere you go.

A balanced life depends on how much responsibility you take for your client’s success in therapy. And that may not mean what you think it does.

Graduate level boundary setting.

There are the concrete ones like ending sessions on time, being clear about email contact, and other expectations between sessions – that sort of thing.

Next are the less apparent boundaries – how much work you put in to ensure they do their work, how much you think about them between sessions, and how much you consciously believe it’s your job to remove their pain.

And then there are the most subtle ones – the subconscious beliefs that tell you it’s your role to take on their pain – so you energetically do!

Taking on that pain can feel like a drained battery, tightness in body parts, numbing out, and other psychosomatic symptoms. Breached energetic boundaries aren’t demarcated clearly – it can just feel like the doldrums of being an adult.

Adulting is supposed to be FUN!

While feeling super enmeshed in your experience, it’s all too easy to get sucked into the daily to-do’s and the hamster wheel of life.

Then, you come home exhausted, barely wanting to have a social life. Out for a drink with friends? Ugh, no thanks.

Trying to decide what to make for dinner, doing what you can to quiet your mind from work, getting through the evening so you can crash, and hopefully getting a good night’s sleep is not enough!
You didn’t choose this helping profession, so life could be a drag. It’s not your job to ensure your clients’ lives are extraordinary while yours falls apart.

Living with chronically low energy and a dimly lit light and getting by day-to-day with your clients is not why you became a therapist, but it’s a widespread challenge for most of us.

Trauma does live in the body.

As a therapist, you know this for your clients. As a human, you may forget and ignore this within you.

You’re an empathic person, so you absorb your clients’ energy, and since the trauma is stored in their bodies, it’s passed into yours to some degree. What does it feel like for you in the therapy room with your clients – frenetic, anxious, grounded, neutral?

Notice how your body feels differently with different clients. It could be a tightness in your chest or a headache. You may find it hard to use your authentic voice. You may become filled with self-doubt or feel entirely at ease with others.

The layers of you and the layers of your clients can get a little mixed. It is not a fault of your own or theirs – it is par for the healing work. What you do about it for yourself matters in your transformation.

Your personal development as a therapist counts.

Not prioritizing self-care and putting yourself behind others’ well-being is not the way.

Becoming a therapist was second nature because you’ve held the caretaker role since childhood. Self-sacrifice is the old paradigm that no longer suits you. It doesn’t provide you the space to show up to life with vitality, a solid sense of self, or the ability to connect and have fun with loved ones.

You don’t have to hold onto your stored stress and trauma any more than you need to hold onto your clients’ stuff. You no longer need to feel bogged down by the pain and struggle from everyday living. You get to feel free, light, whole.

Yes, you hold space for people’s pain. Yes, you have your pain. Hard stuff arising in your journey is inevitable, but that’s not where your story starts or ends.

Being a therapist is incredible work!

Helping others process and heal brings you face-to-face with your healing process – EVERY DAY.

Beyond how your clients’ trauma affects you – you have your own (big T and little t) traumas to work through. Being a therapist is a gift to your own growth and expansion process.

You are on an accelerated healing trajectory – especially when you acknowledge the unique life path you’ve chosen. As a therapist, you cannot ignore your humanness – you’re with it, whether you want to accept it or not, every time you sit with a client.

Personal Development work is for YOU. It’s you prioritizing your needs to become the person and live that life you dream of – with a bonus benefit – you can show up for your clients even more attuned and alive to support their healing. You get to mirror what’s possible!

Heck yes!

Burn brighter sustainably.

You are not on this planet to suffer and get by – You’re here to be a professional therapist, an extraordinary human and have so much fun doing it.

Through Cognitive processing, Somatic shifts, and Breathwork, you’ll cut through the density, the mucky buildup, and the old unhelpful scripts and release the energetics of stress and trauma that aren’t yours to hold onto. With this freedom, you get to shine your light incredibly bright!

As you become embodied as the person you are and start inviting in your Ego with all its parts, you are no longer fragmented – allowing you to return to being and feeling whole in your humanness.

Standing as your whole human self and your Soul, you navigate and learn what it is to be, feel, and live soul-aligned. You get to do your Soul-Aligned work.

The life you dream of is 1,000 percent attainable. Let’s help you get there together!